But in truth, St. Joseph was married to Jesus' real mother, so he is both Jesus's stepfather and foster father. I have a real role model! I can't tell you what a relief it is to know that there is a place for me in Catholic/Christian Tradition.
Here is an ancient prayer to St. Joseph, likely used by Jesus's followers while Jesus was still alive (and ever since). We don't know exactly when it was written, only that it was found in 50 A.D., roughly 17 years after Christ's death and resurrection. This prayer asks St. Joseph, who holds an important place in heaven close to Jesus, to join his voice to ours as we ask Jesus to protect the vulnerable and dying, and to mercifully welcome the dead into heaven. At the time that it was originally found, this prayer was likely used as a plea to God to protect the new Christian people from martyrdom and torture. This particular prayer has little to do with step-parenting (unless you consider step-parenting torture! I don't), but it's close to my heart because it is a direct link back to Jesus.
An Ancient Prayer to Saint Joseph
O St. Joseph, whose protection is so great, so strong, so prompt before the throne of God, I place in thee all my interests and desires. O St. Joseph, assist me by thy powerful intercession and obtain for me all spiritual blessings through thy foster Son, Jesus Christ Our Lord, so that, having engaged here below thy heavenly power, I may offer thee my thanksgiving and homage.
O St. Joseph, I never weary contemplating thee and Jesus asleep in thine arms. I dare not approach while He reposes near thy heart. Press Him in my name and kiss His fine head for me, and ask Him to return the kiss when I draw my dying breath.
St. Joseph, patron of departing souls, pray for me. Amen.
Now that I see a kindred spirit in St. Joseph, the line "I never weary contemplating thee and Jesus asleep in thine arms" touches my heart so deeply.
In gathering this sketch for the blog, I realized that the feast of St. Joseph is exactly one week from today, March 19.
Head of Saint Joseph looking down,
with a subsidiary study of his features (recto);
Two studies of legs (verso)
Andrea d'Angiolo, called Andrea del Sarto
Purchased by a private collector in July 2005,
Christie's, London, King Street